intimacy
& sex therapy
Compassionate sex therapy in Livingston, NJ.
Sex requires vulnerability, relaxation, and safety, yet it's one of the most taboo topics in therapy.
Many cultures create stigma and silence around sexuality, leaving people feeling alone, confused, and ashamed without the resources to safely explore their sex life.
I offer a place of curiosity and zero judgment.
Sex therapy looks like standard talk therapy, but with focused exploration of your sexual experiences and needs.Â
Drawing from my work in trauma and attachment, I help individuals and couples address intimacy issues with sensitivity and care.
We'll work to establish the vulnerability, relaxation, and safety you need.
Together, we’ll explore concerns like sexual trauma, performance anxiety, mismatched desires, and communication barriers.
We’ll work to establish the vulnerability, relaxation, and safety you need so you can move forward with confidence and rediscover fulfilling intimacy.
Mismatched libidos are causing conflict in your relationship.
Different levels of desire can create tension, resentment, and feelings of rejection on both sides. One partner feels pressured or inadequate while the other feels unwanted or frustrated, leaving you both hurt and disconnected.
Mismatched desire is one of the most common intimacy issues couples face, and it’s rarely just about sex. It’s often connected to emotional safety, stress, attachment wounds, or unspoken needs that haven’t been addressed.
In therapy, we’ll explore what’s underneath the disconnect and help you both understand each other’s experiences. You’ll learn to bridge the gap with compassion, communicate about desire without shame, and find ways to reconnect that work for both of you.
You love your partner but have lost the spark sexually.
The emotional connection is there, but the physical intimacy has faded. You care deeply about each other but sex feels like a chore, something you avoid, or simply isn’t happening anymore.
Losing sexual desire in long-term relationships is incredibly common and usually signals that something emotional or relational needs attention. Stress, resentment, routine, or unaddressed wounds can all dim the spark without changing how much you love each other.
In therapy, we’ll work to understand what changed and help you rediscover desire and passion. By addressing what’s blocking intimacy and rebuilding emotional connection, the physical spark can return in ways that feel authentic and fulfilling.
You're navigating a change in gender or sexual orientation.
Exploring your identity can bring up questions about intimacy, how to communicate these changes with partners, and what this means for your sexual life. You need a safe space to work through this transition without judgment.
Identity shifts affect every aspect of intimacy, and navigating them requires support that honors who you’re becoming. Whether you’re coming out, transitioning, or simply questioning, these changes deserve compassionate guidance.
In therapy, I provide a safe, affirming space to explore your identity and its impact on your intimate life. We’ll work through questions, communication strategies, and help you step into your authentic self with confidence.
Anxiety spikes during sex and you don't know why.
Sexual anxiety can show up as physical tension, racing thoughts, panic, or complete avoidance. What should feel pleasurable instead feels scary or overwhelming, and you can’t figure out what’s causing it.
Sexual anxiety often stems from past trauma, performance pressure, body image struggles, or attachment wounds that make vulnerability feel unsafe. Your body is trying to protect you, even though the threat isn’t actually present.
In therapy, we’ll explore the roots of your sexual anxiety and work to create safety in your body. You’ll learn grounding techniques to stay present during intimacy and gradually rebuild trust that sex can feel good instead of frightening.
You've experienced sexual abuse or trauma.
Past trauma can profoundly impact your relationship with intimacy, your body, and your sense of safety during sex. Healing from sexual trauma requires specialized support that honors your pace and your experience.
Sexual trauma affects how you experience pleasure, trust, vulnerability, and connection. The wounds run deep, and trying to just move past them without processing what happened keeps you stuck in pain and disconnection.
In therapy, we’ll process these experiences gently and help you reclaim safety, agency, and pleasure. Healing is possible, and you deserve to experience intimacy without being haunted by your past.
You struggle to understand what you like or to orgasm.
Many people feel disconnected from their bodies or unsure about their desires. You might not know what feels good, struggle to communicate what you want, or can’t reach orgasm no matter what you try.
If you weren’t taught to explore your body or your pleasure was shamed, disconnection from your sexuality is a natural result. You’re not broken, you just haven’t had permission or guidance to discover what works for you.
In therapy, we’ll create space to explore what feels good without pressure or shame. You’ll learn to tune into your body, understand your desires, and communicate them, making pleasure and orgasm more accessible.
Expressing sexual needs feels overwhelming or impossible.
Talking about sex can feel vulnerable and scary, especially if you fear judgment, rejection, or conflict. You keep your desires and boundaries hidden, which leaves you feeling unseen and unfulfilled.
If your needs weren’t welcomed or safe to express in the past, speaking up about sex can feel terrifying. The vulnerability required for sexual communication triggers old wounds about not being heard or valued.
In therapy, we’ll build your confidence in communicating your desires and boundaries. You’ll learn how to express what you need in ways that invite connection instead of conflict, and discover that your voice matters in your intimate life.
You experience erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.
Performance concerns can create a cycle of anxiety that makes intimacy stressful instead of pleasurable. The worry about whether your body will cooperate overshadows any chance of connection or enjoyment.
Sexual performance issues are often connected to both physical and emotional factors like stress, anxiety, relationship dynamics, or past experiences. The more you worry about performance, the more likely the issue is to continue.
In therapy, we’ll address both the physical and emotional aspects affecting your sexual confidence. You’ll learn to reduce performance anxiety, communicate with your partner, and shift focus from performance to pleasure and connection.
Penetration causes tightness or pain.
Pain during sex is often connected to both physical and emotional factors like pelvic floor tension, anxiety, past trauma, or not feeling safe enough to relax. What should be pleasurable becomes something you dread or avoid.
Your body tightening or experiencing pain during penetration is a protective response, not something you’re doing wrong. It’s often your nervous system’s way of saying something doesn’t feel safe, even if you consciously want intimacy.
In therapy, we’ll explore what’s happening physically and emotionally to cause the pain. Working with both body and mind, we’ll help you find relief and work toward comfort, pleasure, and the intimacy you deserve.
You're postpartum and don't feel sexual at all.
Hormonal changes, body image struggles, exhaustion, and the demands of caring for a baby are incredibly common reasons for lost desire. You might feel touched out, disconnected from your body, or simply have nothing left to give.
Postpartum changes affect every aspect of sexuality, and the pressure to bounce back or resume intimacy can make things worse. What you’re experiencing is normal, even though it’s hard on you and your relationship.
In therapy, we’ll help you navigate this transition with compassion and without pressure. You’ll learn to communicate your needs, reconnect with your body at your own pace, and find your way back to intimacy when you’re ready.
You engage in sexual acts you later regret.
If you find yourself crossing your own boundaries, feeling disconnected during sex, or doing things that don’t align with what you actually want, something deeper is happening that needs attention.
Engaging in unwanted sexual behavior often stems from difficulty setting boundaries, people-pleasing patterns, trauma responses, or using sex to cope with other pain. You’re not broken, you’re struggling with patterns that need understanding and healing.
In therapy, we’ll explore why this happens and help you develop healthier boundaries and self-awareness. You’ll learn to honor your own limits, recognize what you truly want, and make choices that feel authentic and safe.
You feel embarrassed by your lack of knowledge or skills.
There’s no shame in not knowing, but our culture’s silence around sexuality leaves many people feeling lost and inadequate. You deserve education and guidance in a judgment-free space where all questions are welcome.
Most people never received comprehensive, shame-free sex education. What you don’t know isn’t your fault, and seeking information and support shows self-awareness and courage, not inadequacy.
In therapy, I provide education and guidance without judgment or embarrassment. You’ll learn what you need to know, ask questions freely, and build confidence in your sexuality and intimate life.